What Percentage of Men Cheat?

It's an unfortunate truth: Infidelity happens among married couples. And while people of all genders cheat, studies highlight than more men engage in extramarital affairs than women. For example, the General Social Survey indicates that men are roughly 7 percent more likely to cheat than women. And according to Techopedia, 23 percent of men admit to cheating, compared to 19 percent of women. However, even though cheating may occur in almost one-quarter of all relationships, that doesn't mean it's behavior you need to accept or tolerate.

Men who are caught cheating will often try to minimize, rationalize, and justify their behavior with excuses, but it's important to remember that you always have the power to choose to be faithful—and, consequently, unfaithful—to your significant other. The decision to cheat can be driven by a number of factors, including anger, low self-esteem, a need for variety, or even emotional neglect. However, while none of these causes are ultimately an excuse for infidelity, they can help explain why it may occur in the first place.

Below, we break down why men engage in infidelity, as well as what to do if you find out your partner is cheating. Read on for more.

What Percentage of Men Cheat? 

“Research tells us that, on average, around 20 percent of men are unfaithful to their spouse, as compared to 13 percent of women,” says Briony Leo, a psychologist from Melbourne, Australia. “Of course, the only research available is from self-report surveys, so the number might be somewhat higher—but most surveys and studies support this finding.” According to research from the University of Colorado Boulder’s Department of Psychology and Neuroscience, instances of cheating are reported more frequently by men, despite some studies that men and women engage in infidelity at similar rates. 

With those numbers in mind, it's fair to say that roughly one in five married men cheat. But why does this happen? Ultimately, it may be explained by a difference in outlook. In the aforementioned 2017 study, men were less likely to report that extramarital sex was always wrong, and more likely to view it as almost always wrong, wrong only sometimes, or not wrong at all. This indicates that not only do men cheat more than women but that they’re also more flexible in their attitude towards extramarital sex—at least when they’re the ones committing the infidelity. 

At What Age Are Married Men Most Likely to Cheat? 

A study from the Institute for Family Studies (IFS) uncovered some surprising data about when married men are most likely to cheat. Before 30, the number of married men and women who cheat is about the same (10 percent versus 11 percent). However, as we age, men become more likely to stray; this is true not just in mid-life, but also later in life. IFS reports that the infidelity rate among men in their 70s is the highest at 26 percent, and it remains high among men ages 80 and older, as 24 percent of men admit to being guilty of infidelity.

How Common Is Cheating in Marriage?

“Around 15 to 20 percent of marriages have infidelity,” Leo says. “The Relish Relationship Report that was conducted at the end of 2020 found that around 26 percent of respondents had experienced infidelity in their marriage: 23 percent emotional, 21 percent physical, and 55 percent experiencing both emotional and physical infidelity.”

Infidelity happens in good and bad marriages, so the idea that having a “perfect” partnership will prevent cheating is a fallacy. People stray for a multitude of reasons. Sometimes, it's due to marital dysfunction, such as feeling insecure, avoiding conflict, experiencing a lack of connection, or just overall loneliness. Other times, an affair can be a way—albeit, a potentially destructive one—of self-discovery and searching for a new or lost identity.

What Percent of Couples Stay Together After Infidelity?

“In general, [in the Relish Relationships Report,] more than half the relationships (55 percent) ended immediately after one partner admits to cheating, with 30 percent deciding to stay together but breaking up eventually, and only 15 percent of couples able to successfully recover from infidelity,” Leo notes. According to a 2023 study, infidelity is the number one cause of breakups. The future of a marriage post-affair is ultimately dependent on how both people process the transgression. These earth-shattering events have a way of bringing about the most honest, deepest conversations two people in a relationship can have. Of course, this all depends on if both people are willing to do the work necessary to rebuild things.

It’s the process of navigating these questions with an open and loving heart—regardless of what you want the outcome to be—that will either redefine a marriage or seal it shut. These difficult conversations are often not something you can do on your own, and it’s okay to bring in an expert to help guide you on this treacherous journey and help both people find their footing. “Often relationship coaching or therapy is helpful since infidelity is a common issue and there are evidence-based ways of understanding and recovering from cheating,” says Leo. “Sometimes, this brings to a head issues in the relationship that had not been addressed, such as a mismatch in libidos, lack of connection, feelings of resentment or feelings of shame or loneliness.”